Self Leadership
Immunity to Change: An Exploration in Self-Awareness
“If wanting to change and actually being able to are so uncertainly linked when our very lives are on the line,” Robert Kegan.
Path of self discovery started with some of the previously asked yet unrevealed intriguing questions of orientation program. Three questions those are most crucial to manage change within ourselves are as follows:
· People who matter to you the most?
· What are the needs that you are moved to share for the people who matter to you?
· How would you meet with the above stated needs?
It’s been about 4 months we are clear about people who matter to us the most and what are the some points at which we should improve to make them ecstatic .It is important to have clarity in thoughts and action to realize what we want, where we are and what we must do. However, doing so only accomplish ten percent , attainment of self discovery and hence our goal of the inspired leadership.
Most of us find difficulty to achieve above goal because it starts with to bring change in ourselves. It is important to know categories of change in order to have idea about the level of our internal motivation to achieve the goal.
Categories of Change
Need to change: Change that we realize to develop based on feedback from the external environment mainly from peers and friends.
Want to change: After realizing the need our willingness to change describe our want to change .
Actual change: States our practices and efforts we make to develop the change.
Only when we are able to know what we need to change, we can realize what we are doing to actually create a difference in us. We struggle much because we have an inherent immunity to change. We resist changes. It is difficult for us to move out from our comfortable zones, we scare of other’s criticism and our failures. To bring change we must move beyond our resistance to change that is due to our hidden commitments. Kegan and Lahey define immunity to change as a "hidden commitment", with an underlying root cause, that competes and conflicts with a stated commitment to change. These hidden commitments cause people to not change and to fail to realize their best intentions.
The hidden commitments are most often of physical, emotional, and psychological nature which we tend to give more priority than required. However, in addition to the hidden commitment another important factor of resistance to change are all the mental assumptions that we carry.
A recent study showed that “We think we have discovered a powerful dynamic that tends to keep us exactly where we are, despite sincere, even passionate, intentions to change”. Immunity to Change helps us better understand our competing commitments and truly begin to understand the motivation behind behavior and why change, with all of the best intentions, can be so difficult to master.
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