Swetanshu_BLP052_Consulting_03Jan’12

During the last session of self leadership , I learnt that one should ask his/her client what he/she feel about the situation by doing this its becomes easier for the consultant to understand about the his client ideas about the situation. The basic strategy is to help the resistance blow itself out, like a storm, and not to fight it head-on. This way of dealing with resistance by not fighting it head –on-has a ZEN quality to it. Getting the client to talk more about their concerns is helping the storm to pass. Defending methodology is keeping the storm alive. That is what happen when you push back against the resistance. You get stuck, the tension goes up, and the energy is drained.

The three steps for handling resistance are:

·         Pick up the clues – first step is simple to notice what is happening, trust what you see more than what you hear.

·         Name the resistance-the next step is to encourage the client to make direct statement of the reservation he/she is experiencing

·         Be quiet, let the client responds-Once the resistance has been identified and highlighted, further conversation should be started from client side rather than from consultant side.

Chapter 10 deals with moving from diagnosis to discovery. When the contract is clear and you are ready to deal with resistance, attention turns to the discovery phase. Develop an independent and fresh way to looking at what is going on and to create a process that’s leads to client commitment, ownership, and action.

There are two quit distinct ways of thinking about this part of the work. One that focuses more on possibilities than problems. This is variously called an asset- based approach or strength –based approach. One methodology that is future and asset based is called Positive Deviance.

Regardless of whether you choose a problem –based discovery process or a future – and strength –based discovery, the focus on relationship that was emphasized in contracting. If we give the clients what they ask for, we run the risk of not having served them well. However, we tell them that the solution will take awhile, will cost more time and involvement will be required of them than they want to give, we run the risk of alienating them. A better approach is to define our task as a process of discovery and dialogue more than as an act of diagnosis and prescription, independent of whether we are looking at problems or gifts and possibilities.

Swetanshu Anand_BLP052_Self Leadership_Sep'11

In the Self leadership class with Anil sir, our session starts with the five pillars of SOIL. The value and the meaning of those five pillars are: Diversity, Compassion, Ethics, Sustainability and mindfulness.  Then comes the 6 layers among us - Diversity, Reaction, Compassion, Ethics, Sustainability to the inner most layer Mindfulness where Sir tries to tell us how the 6 layers make our lives better. With the help of many activities sir tries to make us realise the power of touch. One of the activities was speaking with fire where sir tries to make everyone to speak about what’s inside them in front of the fire. With the help of this activity Sir tries to remove the negative aspects from every individual. Next activity was ‘appreciation’ which was done in pairs and then we were asked to share a story in which you felt proud of ourselves. We appreciated each other after listening to each other’s stories and felt emotionally connected where I learnt that there is a deep emotional intelligence within us. During the closing session of the day sir asked us to figure out who are the most important people in our lives and the best way to serve them in life. Sir tries to help us to find the purpose of our life and how we do things for each other.

Second session with Anil sir was on 8^th Sep 2011, when the meaning of HABIT was beautifully explained by Sir. Where sir asked us to remove H from Habit then also ABIT remained and when we remove A from the ABIT, then BIT remains finally if we remove B from it remain IT. Here sir tries us to tell it’s not so easy to remove any thing from your life, he also tries to explain this with a very beautiful example of Smoking which is a very difficult habit to quit but if the person is really determined then it might be possible for him to do so. Hence by this sir tries to tell us if someone keeps trying anything might be it will be easier for that particular person to solve or involve himself/herself to complete that taste. It’s one thinking and determination for taking such type of decision.

During the whole day sir asked a few important questions of everyone and asked us to find out the answers for those questions. He asked everyone what the purpose of our life was, how to be a good leader and how to make your place a better place. Who are all the people are who matter in your life and what is the negative energy you want to overcome. Sir tried to teach us how to reach our goals, as sir  told us if we are clear with our goal might take time to achieve, but it won’t be impossible for us to achieve.

In the end we had a session called Immunity X-ray where sir tells us how to gradually develop ourselves. Immunity X ray talks about how the result is achieved after one decides to change. Many times we don’t receive the desired results this teaches us how to realize that result. In this sir told us this all assumption or expectation of results is because of the assumptions of our mind set.